Your husband/partner thinks that you’ve gone over the deep end during your difficult infertility process. Maybe he even believes you’ve gone past the deep end and then gotten off at Crazy (infertility-has-made-you-nuts) Island. No, you are not the only pregnancy-challenged woman whose husband does not understand and thinks you are completely crazy for crying hysterically after a friend tells you she’s expecting; sobbing (for hours) after seeing Aunt Flow, bawling in public places; being jealous of all pregnant woman (and animals); and trying to come up with a plan to avoid all pregnant women during the infertility process.
So why doesn’t he get it?
You know he wants a baby more than anything but dear old hubby just doesn’t understand your extreme jealousy of some all pregnant women. He thinks you’re a bit nutty for glaring at strangers baby bumps and bursting into tears when you see a baby in a stroller. He doesn’t understand why you think it might be easier to surgically remove your own heart with a pair of tweezers than to chat with a girlfriend about their recent pregnancy news, and you’re not exactly sure which would be more painful. And he doesn’t get why you continue to cry for weeks after a negative pregnancy test or why you’re sobbing when your MIL asks if you want more baby carrots for dinner. He also thinks you’re a little strange for doing a full headstand after baby-making sex, drinking excessive Raspberry Leaf Tea and sticking a thermometer into your mouth every morning. And even when a relative announces her pregnancy and you try to make eye contact with dear old hubby, he is still happily shoving food in his mouth while your eyes are now wet and you would rather toss the food than eat it.
And by the way, if anyone wants to know how to get to Crazy (infertility-has-made-you-nuts) Island, just swim through Cervical Mucus Road, circle past Fallopian Tube Street, up through Insemination Drive and go up and down the hill at Emotional Breakdown Alley.
This reason is suggested by J’sBlondie who is currently enjoying a martini on Baby-Bump-Envy Island.