Apr 18

Your husband/partner thinks that you’ve gone over the deep end during your difficult infertility process. Maybe he even believes you’ve gone past the deep end and then gotten off  at Crazy (infertility-has-made-you-nuts) Island. No, you are not the only pregnancy-challenged woman whose husband does not understand and thinks you are completely crazy for crying hysterically after a friend tells you she’s expecting; sobbing (for hours) after seeing Aunt Flow, bawling in public places; being jealous of all pregnant woman (and animals);  and trying to come up with a plan to avoid all pregnant women during the infertility process.

So why doesn’t he get it?

You know he wants a baby more than anything but dear old hubby just doesn’t understand your extreme jealousy of some all pregnant women. He thinks you’re a bit nutty for glaring at strangers baby bumps and bursting into tears when you see a baby in a stroller. He doesn’t understand why you think it might be easier to surgically remove your own heart with a pair of tweezers than to chat with a girlfriend about their recent pregnancy news, and you’re not exactly sure which would be more painful. And he doesn’t get why you continue to cry for weeks after a negative pregnancy test or why you’re sobbing when your MIL asks if you want more baby carrots for dinner. He also thinks you’re a little strange for doing a full headstand after baby-making sex, drinking excessive Raspberry Leaf Tea and sticking a thermometer into your mouth every morning. And even when a relative announces her pregnancy and you try to make eye contact with dear old hubby, he is still happily shoving food in his mouth while your eyes are now wet and you would rather toss the food than eat it.

And by the way, if anyone wants to know how to get to Crazy (infertility-has-made-you-nuts) Island, just swim through Cervical Mucus Road, circle past Fallopian Tube Street, up through Insemination Drive and go up and down the hill at Emotional Breakdown Alley.

This reason is suggested by J’sBlondie who is currently enjoying a martini on Baby-Bump-Envy Island.

21 Responses to “#773 Your husband thinks you’re on crazy island”

  1. Ummm, have you been spying on me? This post fits me to a T!

  2. Carolyn says:

    Ha! Baby carrots!! I love it.

  3. EMC says:

    Totally accurate! Any ideas for getting back to sanity after a trip to crazy island?

  4. Manisha says:

    oh thank God, I m not the only one who is jealous of pregnant animals too!
    thnx a ton for the humor dear. Its relaxing during one of those times.

  5. says:

    Totally and completely accurate! If I have to hear “it’s not a race” one more freaking time from my hubby, I may just kill him! Oh wait, can I get some more of his sperm first? Just kidding…kind of…

  6. Dena says:

    This is my favorite and so true!! My husband thinks I am absolutely nuts sometimes!

  7. Cherbear says:

    OMG Alex, my husband says that too!! (and other variations of it…)

    It’s nice to know I’m not the only one.

  8. Reena says:

    LOL…love the directions to the island :)

  9. Heather2 says:

    Love it..even though it sucks there are so many of us out there…it is comforting knowing there are other citizens of “Crazy Island”.

  10. Erin says:

    Ha, so true. My hubby definetly thinks I’m one crazy bitch. For example his cousin had twin girls and is going to name one of them one of my favorite girl names – I lost it and said screw her Im still going to use that name. Sometimes he looks terrified of me, lol.

  11. GiGi says:

    OMG – this is awesome… as an inhabitant of Crazy Island for a while now it is so nice to know that I’m not alone! Love the comment about pregnant animals… some birds were “going at it” outside my window the other day and it pissed me off because I knew that birds eggs were gonna get fertilized, but mine never do! And then I wished infertility upon that little bird… is that wrone? LOL! Thanks for the laugh!

  12. GiGi says:

    oops “wrone” = “wrong”

  13. WG says:

    Oh my. My fella thinks I’m insane. My pregnant sister-in-law sent me a Facebook suggestion that I should be a friend of a photographer specialising in photos of pregnant bellies and babies! WTF?! Insensitive much? I cried and cried and cried and my boyfriend thinks I’m being ridiculous.

  14. I'm Broken says:

    yes i totally agree with this, we had to leave a party early because my dear hubby’s coworker wouldn’t stop ranting on about how i need to have a baby while im young…..i felt like climbing on top of the table and screaming
    “just because you have 2 children,doesn’ t mean you have to sit there and point your finger at me…the one whose fallopian tubes are missing and is so broken inside that there is not enough tape in the world to fix me!!!”

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  16. Juliet says:

    Mine actually said “try not to think about it so much” to me today. I told him to stop breathing, then pinched his nose and put my hand over his mouth to prove he couldn’t do it. He’s staying as detatched as he can to protect his own emotions, but that’s much easier for him, as he’s not the one going to all the appointments and full of all the hormones!

  17. Anonymous says:

    Makes me feel better about the emotional breakdown I had while shopping for a shower gift at Babies R Us. My husband had to come and rescue me because I got overwhelmed in the bedding area.

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