Thanks Aunt Gertrude, that is such great advice! It did take us over six months to get an appointment with this doctor but I’ll just switch clinics and patiently wait another six months to see someone else. Because infertiles are very patient, you know.
You have a fertility clinic. You have a fertility doctor. You have a fertility program. You are finally comfortable talking about ‘cervical mucus’ in front of the fertility interns. But family members always seem to think that going to a new doctor will solve your problem. “Cousin Lindsey just got pregnant by Doctor Uterus. Why don’t you try going to that doctor instead? I already have his number.”
If you’ve been going to the fertility clinic awhile, you do often think about getting a second opinion. Maybe you even have. It took you months to get the second opinion appointment and you felt like you were cheating on your clinic when you had to ask them for a copy of your extremely large file. And do you know what the second opinion doctor said? “Yup. Looks like you’re infertile. I agree with the protocol and diagnosis.”
So it makes you even more upset when someone offers that advice “Why don’t you just switch fertility clinics?” Like it’s the easiest thing to do. To start over. When you’re semi comfortable now with seeing your old friend transvaginal wand and all the nurses (and interns) that have seen your lady parts more times than your husband. Those well-meaning relatives make it sound so easy when giving fertility advice. And, for some reason, they always start their advice rant with ‘why don’t you just…’
- Why don’t you just switch fertility clinics? My friend’s daughter’s wax lady got pregnant by Doctor Follicle. Here’s the number.
- Why don’t you just adopt? Just fill out a form and a brand new baby will be delivered within days!
- Why don’t you just try acupuncture?
- Why don’t you just try Raspberry Leaf Tea?
- Why don’t you just RELAX?
Thanks a lot. Why don’t you just stop giving us fertility advice?