Jan 10

The chemical pregnancy heartache. Another special moment in infertility.

A chemical pregnancy, meaning a very early miscarriage, where a positive pregnancy test was detected before the woman’s period was due and results in a negative pregnancy test following a period-like bleed.

You were almost there! You had a positive pregnancy test in your hand and something special in your belly. You were just about to throw away your membership to the infertiles club and join the fertile pregnancy club. You and your husband got to celebrate the pregnancy for about 15 minutes when you start to spot. Then you bleed. This doesn’t seem right. Take another pregnancy test. Still positive one day and then negative the next. Well, this is confusing. Are you pregnant or aren’t you? You were so close, and now the moment is gone, leaving a familiar ache in your chest. You wish you could just put a plug down there to stop the bleeding or perhaps some embryo super glue to stick it back in. You will cry for awhile and hurt for a little longer but then you get up, dry your tears, and learn to smile again.

Bloody hell, infertility! Can’t we just get Knocked Up like Katherine Heigl did in that movie or have sex only one time like Juno did?

12 Responses to “#822 The chemical pregnancy tease”

  1. elephantscanremember says:

    Tell me about it. That's another kick in the head we don't need.

  2. Jodie says:

    This is the worst. I hate them more than anything else. I have had two in the last 12 months and it does not get any easier!

  3. Shanny says:

    Infertility has some screwed up system if you ask me, chemical pregnancies can suck it!

  4. Anonymous says:

    Thank you so much for this post. I've been through this hell before. 2 m/c's and a chem preg. I don't care what anyone says, these babies were still MY babies and they always will be. the baby i lost in the chem preg would have been 1 year old this week. Thanks so much for the post and hugs to you.

  5. Molly says:

    Oh, man. I haven't had one–thank goodness!–and I can't imagine the disappointment.


  6. Shanna says:

    Ugh…so devastating…I've had two m/c's and one chemical…what a bunch of messed up crap to deal with!

  7. R.J. says:

    Sorry to hear that. these types of things just aren't right.

  8. Anonymous says:

    humm.. I had one chemical pregnancy then joined the infertile club. I think you put the feelings into words best with this post. The medical terms make it sound so Scientific and unreal, like you shouldnt feel the pain. It was 8 months ago but seems like yesterday.

  9. Amanda says:

    no!!! i was hoping it worked for you! this does just seriously suck!

    and katherine heigl got pregnant just by one time in that movie too!! (which i know it's a movie, but it was based off the director and his real life wife. so the story is true!)

    doesn't make ANY sense and i'm SICK OF IT!!

  10. amy (metz) walker says:

    Had my first experience with this recently…I couldn't decide whether to be sad or be grateful to know I can at least (sorta) get pregnant! I guess, ultimately, I chose both.

    My mom actually found your blog and sent the link to me. I was both laughing and crying at the same time. Your honesty is refreshing!

  11. juniper76 says:

    I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It took me 2.75 years to get a BFP and it was gone less than 2 weeks later. The resulting heartache is something that just can't be understood by people who have never had difficulty conceiving.

    Not long after I had a co-worker dismiss the idea of grief associated with any m/c. Of course, he's gotten his wife pg first time they've tried each time. Their second is due the same month mine would have been…

  12. GatorGirl says:

    i’ve had a heartache since last June when this happened to me. Am I happy to know something worked? Yes. But why hasn’t it since?
    Had a rough day today, found this site, and amazingly this is therapeutic for me. Thanks for all the laughs, truths, and more.