It’s another birthday and it’s time to blow out those candles. But golly gee wiz, what will you wish for? Duh!
It is wildly believed that before you blow your birthday candles out, you need to make a wish and if you don’t tell anyone, it will come true. Maybe that’s why you aren’t pregnant yet because every single person in that room knows what you wished for. Even your two year old nephew knows that you wished for a baby. Close your eye. Deep breath “By my next birthday, I wish to be pregnant or have a baby.” Blow out those candles (all 45 of them!). The room is awkward as everyone claps politely, even your uterus applauds. How wonderful! She blew out all those candles but we all know what she wished for. “I bet she wished for a baby,” Great Aunt Gertie whispers the obvious.
Oh great. Now, EVERYONE knows what you wished for, so how will it come true? Well maybe you’re wrong everyone! Maybe you actually wished for plentiful cervical mucus and for your husband to magically produce good quality semen! Not to worry, according to your fertility doctor you’re still very young.
Now, who wants a slice of cake?
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LOL I just turned 35 and I totally thought this while I was blowing out the candles! I made my wish — the obvious one — and I thought "I bet everyone knows what I'm thinking…" Maybe if we stop making the wish and everyone else is thinking it then it will happen?
I totally hear you. I'm dreading my April B-day b/c last year I found out on my big day that our most recent IVF cycle failed and SWORE I'd be PG by that time next year. Wishing-smishing.
Funny-today's actually my 31st birthday. And I just happened to take a pregnancy test this morning to see the results of our first IUI. I remain the "one-line wonder." I guess I'll stay subscribed to this blog! :/
This hits home for me. My birthday is coming up next week and, well….. you know. Thought I'd be knocked up by now!
perfect! My b-day is weeks away…36! and my nephew is, in fact, 2.
Thank goodness for this blog and your Facebook page! You say what so many infertiles are thinking. I'm so relieved to know I'm not alone!
I like your writing style. Nice blog.
Why would you still be wishing for a baby at 45 years old? Or are you 44, and then there was an extra candle for luck? That is how I like to do it.
Anyway, you should be a grandma by now. Your time to become a mom passed well over a decade ago. Sorry for your luck, but if you wanted a baby badly enough you would have adopted instead of being so selfish trying for “your own.”
I just really don’t think you should be complaining at all when there are thousands of kids just like me who need moms, but women like you are too selfish to give us a chance.
I just want to say that I’m sorry for that. I was lashing out from anger.
You apologized so i’m not going to tear you a new one on behalf of all the ladies here. But the maliciousness in your post was acidic. I have never heard such vitriol in my entire 25 years. Or perhaps I should not have mentioned my age, as you may tell me that I should be out partying and “living my life” and “not worrying” about being a mother. My point is, who the heck are you to judge? And give who a chance? Children who are up for adoption? Let me ask you this: would you really want to be adopted and be raised as “Plan B”? And why should we.have the finger pointed at us to adopt? Why not fertile women as well? I know you were lashing out, but to lash out at a group that is already hurting and trying to use laughter to take the bite out the constant pain, at least for a few seconds….well thats a special kind of cruel.
You apologized, and I can understand your anger (though because.of it, you are hardly encouraging adoption) but you should work on your ignorance about infertility and the pain of others.
Apology accepted. Offense not forgotten.