The F word. A word you don’t say in public but you’ll shout at your husband at least once a week. Fertility You!
When you first started trying, you found support in your friends. They would ask about your fertility problems and give you a shoulder to cry on.
But one by one, they got bit by the stork and you started confiding in them less and less. Then they became afraid to talk to you about it. The truth is you don’t mind talking about it (but it really depends on the day), and they seem very afraid to bring up the F word. You both now talk around it. When you get together, they cautiously hint at topics about infertility but will rarely bring it up directly.
In fact, they now speak to you in code:
“I heard your cousin is pregnant” – this means “Are you pregnant yet?”
“How are things?” – this means “Are you pregnant yet?”
“Did you see that new movie yet?” – this means “Are you pregnant yet?”
Your friends mean well, they really do, and you can tell their really trying to be sensitive about your situation. But sometimes they should just blurt out “IT’S BEEN 4 YEARS ALREADY, WHY IN THE WORLD AREN’T YOU PREGNANT YET? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?”
I’m sure that will make you both feel better.