The ‘pregnancy plan‘ – we all know how that worked out!
You might not have baby #1 yet but you already know your pregnancy plan for baby #2. You plan to try for your second baby as soon as you pop out your first! Maybe even when your first is 4 weeks old, if possible. Your husband disagrees. He may want to wait a few months before trying for a second but you are taking no chances this time – you will try to expand your (imaginary) family as soon as possible. You might not even have told him your plan yet. Why get him nervous now?
We all had a pregnancy plan that has since gone astray – your initial pregnancy plan was: married for 2 years, start trying for a baby before you hit 30, quit your job after maternity leave and maybe start for baby #2 or #3. This pregnancy plan obviously did not work out as planned which is why you feel the pressure to start baby #2 before baby #1 is even here.
No doubt, we just love hearing our friends or co-workers ‘pregnancy plans.’ A friend is waiting until the summer to try to conceive because she doesn’t want to be pregnant for her sister’s upcoming wedding. Another is starting to try this spring so she and her best friend can be pregnant at the same time. You roll your eyes (secretly) every time someone tells you their ‘pregnancy plan.’ You may try to point out that sometimes things don’t go as planned but they cannot understand. It’s true. You did not understand way back when you announced your ‘pregnancy plan,’ probably to someone who secretly rolled their eyes as well.
Next time someone tells you their ‘pregnancy plan,’ tell them the truth: if you get pregnant within 6 months, you are incredibly lucky. Otherwise, just crush their dreams early on and give them a membership to our infertility club.