What are you doing this Mother’s Day? A nice brunch? A spa day out with mom? Nope. You will be putting your legs up in stirrups and enjoying a transvaginal wand appointment.
No doubt, you are dreading Mother’s Day (also recognized as National Infertiles Worst Nightmare Day). This is the day where all your mommy friends will be posting photos of their Mother’s Day on Facebook, every Facebook status update will say “Cherish being a Mother today,” and your uterus and ovaries will be secretly laughing at you. Ironically, you will, most likely, have a fertility appointment scheduled on this day. While little kids everywhere are making breakfast in bed for their fertile mother, you will be waking up at 6:00am to drive to your blood and ultrasound appointment, change into a blue gown and sit with the other non-moms while you wait your turn for the fertility doctor to poke around your vagina. “Right side. There is a 1.1 follicle, 1.4 follicle, 0.3 follicle. Left side is quiet,” Your Fertility Doctor will say. Damn you transvaginal wand. Maybe I should have make you breakfast in bed!
Or perhaps you will have an IUI, embryo retrieval or transfer scheduled on this day. That way, you will probably miss out on taking your own mother out for brunch. “Sorry ma. Gotta miss Mother’s Day again this year. We’re getting artificially inseminated.” Doesn’t Hallmark make a greeting card for that occasion?
Mother’s Day is coming up and you WILL survive it. You WILL get through it. You are a mother too. You just haven’t met your baby yet.