During your infertility journey, there are times when you are NOT envious of pregnant women. This is a rare occurrence because most times, you are a bitter and jealous infertile and would rather examine a woman’s cervical mucus than look at another belly bump.
Here are the times when you are not (as) jealous of pregnant women:
- Your period is late and you think you could be pregnant.
- Your basal temperature keeps increasing.
- Immediately following an IUI because you might have a chance this month.
- The first two days following an IVF transfer. You are not yet completely obsessing about pregnancy symptoms yet.
During this brief “I’m not as jealous of pregnant women” phase, you may even smile at these women or flash a grin at a passing baby. After all, you could be one of ‘them.’ In those brief moments, you transform from a desperate (secretly) jealous person into the kind, nice woman you use to be before infertility used your heart as a punching bag. If only Child Social Services could see you now. “This nice woman deserves to be a mother. Look, she isn’t even thinking about stealing a baby.” (Not true. You are still thinking about it somewhat).
Here are the times you will transform back into your (secretly) jealous self:
- Your period arrives or you think it’s about to arrive, and you glare at pregnant women.
- You are at the middle/end of your two week wait and you feel no pregnancy symptoms.
- You are at the middle/end of your two week wait and your temperature starts to drop.
- Your latest fertility treatment was canceled.
- Your egg quality sucked during your IUI or IVF. Great. You have no chance now!
After all, at the end of your two week wait, you have already decided the outcome even before testing. It’s a good thing you’re not a doctor.