Sallie to Becky, Monday – “I’m doing an IVF cycle this month.”
Becky to Sallie, Wednesday – “How was your IVF? Are you pregnant yet?”
As soon as you tell someone you’re going through infertility treatments, they seem to ask you if you’re pregnant only a few days later. You tell a friend you are doing IVF, they ask you TWO days later how it went and if you’re pregnant yet. “Hey friend! IVF takes about a month or longer. It’s not just a one day procedure!” You have to take fertility drugs first and wait several weeks before the actual IVF procedure can occur. Hey friend! Sorry to disappoint but if we tell you we’re doing IVF this month, don’t call the next day and ask how it went! It hasn’t happened yet!
Friends (or fertiles) also seem to think that pregnancy works differently for the infertile gal. You always have to explain that you still have to wait two weeks following ovulation before you find out if you’re pregnant or not. You do not find out on the spot.
“I had an IUI this morning and guess what? The future pregnancy test already told me I was pregnant, and guess what, I already had the baby. It was a boy.”