This is a question we all seem to ask very frequently.
An infertile asking a fertile: “How did you know you were pregnant?” Or “What does it feel like to be pregnant?” When you were first TTC, you asked this question repeatedly to anyone who was showing: a co-worker, your friends, the woman at the gym. It was a time where it was exciting and new to be thinking about babies.
After a while, the question wasn’t as fun anymore but you still inquired anyways. You were just selective on the answers you wanted to hear. You liked when women said that ‘they had no idea they were expecting. They had no pregnancy symptoms’ or that it ‘felt just like they were getting their period.’ Those answers have you hope. You rationalized that if someone didn’t have any symptoms, you might be pregnant too.
Other answers were not as inspiring. You were not fond of the women who answered ‘I just knew right away’ or ‘I had a dream I was pregnant’ or even ‘I felt different.’ Those answers never gave you hope. You had the (very) occasional dream that the pregnancy test was positive or that you were pregnant, but AF always showed up a few days later.
By now, you might have stopped asking this question. But sometimes, in a weak moment, you will still ask Google, hoping to get an answer you want to hear.