Jul 24

This is a question we all seem to ask very frequently.

An infertile asking a fertile: “How did you know you were pregnant?” Or “What does it feel like to be pregnant?” When you were first TTC, you asked this question repeatedly to anyone who was showing: a co-worker, your friends, the woman at the gym. It was a time where it was exciting and new to be thinking about babies.

After a while, the question wasn’t as fun anymore but you still inquired anyways. You were just selective on the answers you wanted to hear. You liked when women said that ‘they had no idea they were expecting. They had no pregnancy symptoms’ or that it ‘felt just like they were getting their period.’ Those answers have you hope. You rationalized that if someone didn’t have any symptoms, you might be pregnant too.

Other answers were not as inspiring. You were not fond of the women who answered ‘I just knew right away’ or ‘I had a dream I was pregnant’ or even ‘I felt different.’ Those answers never gave you hope. You had the (very) occasional dream that the pregnancy test was positive or that you were pregnant, but AF always showed up a few days later.

By now, you might have stopped asking this question. But sometimes, in a weak moment, you will still ask Google, hoping to get an answer you want to hear.

6 Responses to “#942 The ‘how did you know you were pregnant’ question”

  1. wannabemommy says:

    oh goodness google and i have a love hate relationship.. i love to hate it! i read it looking for answers i want to hear, never find them, and then i dump google forever!! forever being the rest of the day because im hoping by the next day a new person will have posted there story with the right dang answers!! or twoweekwait.com i have actually dumped them for a very long time. BOOO

  2. Jami says:

    I just found your blog and I'm in love… Thanks for the laughs! I needed it today. :)

  3. InfertileNaomi says:

    Google will tell you everything you want to know and everything you don't.

    Welcome Jami!

  4. finding_ac says:

    i hate it when people give the "i just knew right away" comment…cause i think i just know right away like every other month, and it turns out i am crazy…like i need someone else to help me feel that way! gah

    ♥ ac

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  6. Anonymous says:

    The other day, I was at a friend's house relaxing after just going through my second IUI. We were sitting outside on her patio reading gossip mags, when bird poop landed just next to my head (not actually on). That convinced my friend that the IUI worked and I would be pregnant…yes, the lucky bird poop charm! Sadly, it was either an unlucky bird or it was supposed to land directly on me, because I'm not pregnant. Ahhhh, funny how we look not just to Google, but also to wives tales and lucky charms.