“You can make a negative event positive by just revising it.” -Anonymous
Negative Event: You just got your period at Cousin Martha’s wedding.
Positive Revision: There is an open bar so drink away!
Negative Event: Your husband is on a business trip during your peak ovulation cycle.
Positive Revision: He’ll be out of town and won’t have to see your complete mental breakdown.
Negative Event: Your pregnant Facebook friend is complaining about her swollen feet.
Positive Revision: There is a Facebook Hide Friend option.
Negative Event: Your friend told you she was pregnant at a restaurant.
Positive Revision: You just saved $10.00 because you are no longer hungry for lunch.
Negative Event: Great Aunt Gerta told you to ‘just relax and it will happen.’
Positive Revision: Great Aunt Gerta lives 1000 miles away.
“Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.”
Nice. If only I could turn all of those negative pee sticks into positives…
Negative: SIL is pregnant with her second.
Positive: She lives 14 hours away.
Negative: SIL refused to eat raw brownie batter bc she doesn’t want to misscarry
Positive: MORE FOR ME!! YUM!
I just wanted to ask you ladies some advice. I totally understand if this is not ok, and if so, please feel free to remove this post. I wanted some help regarding my boy friends sister. She has been trying for 3 years to get pregnant with no luck. I met her brother 10 months ago, and am 6 months pregnant with his child. I understand how hard and how much of a slap this must be for her. The problem is, I’m trying very hard to avoid baby stuff around her, but she keeps asking me questions, which when I answer make her cry. She also always wants to go in babies room, touch my belly, have copies of scans, see my baby girls new little clothes and stuff. I’m not sure how to handle this? It seems like she is making it worse for herself? She lives near by so I see her often each week. Any advice?
Again, if this post is offensive, please remove it.
Great ones, gals! Keep ‘em coming.
Emma, it’s good that you have some awareness of what your SIL is going through. Do you know each other well enough for you to say “I’m really happy to share the milestones of my pregnancy with you, but I notice that every time we talk about baby things, this upsets you a lot. I don’t want to upset you, so I want you to know that I won’t mind if you don’t want to talk about baby things.”
Thank you Tara. I really just dont want this pregnancy making things worse for her. Also i am 21 were as she is 43, ( my bf is a lot closer to my age) and this is the first grandchild on their side, which im very concerned about.
Thank you for your help Tara, I am really grateful X
Emma, kudos to you for being so sensitive to your sister-in-law! I agree with the commenter above, that you should consider openly telling her your concerns. I can tell you that for me, even though I’m infertile and it often is painful to be reminded of the fact that others can get pregnant so easily, I still am geniunely happy for others who do get pregnant. And I always welcome new babies in the family! It sounds like your SIL is the same way, since she seems to want to be involved in your pregnancy. Good luck to you both!
I’m really trying to turn my -ve into +ve but today it’s soooo difficult!! I just want to cry!!! This is so hard. I feel all alone in this and I’m not sure how I can go on…
LOVE this post! I’m all about the glass being half full! Thank you for just a little bit of sunshine in an otherwise yucky situation.
Emma you are AMAZING!! It takes a really selfless person to acknowledge another persons pains when they are in an uncomfortable situation themselves. I think that if she wants to talk about it then answering her questions are just fine. You may want to ask her directly if she is uncomfortable or even how she is feeling. It is really sweet that you would look into infertility and ask these questions.
Negative: I browsed Daily mail’s site and saw the massive picture of Meghan Fox’s bump.
Positive: She’s gaining weight all over, instead of just the bump. Hahaha.
Negative: Foreign college kid knocks on my door to sell me an educational program for elementary age kids.
Positive: I don’t have any kids, so I can easily shoo him away!
Negative: 27 yr old never-married cousin, is on her fourth baby.
Positive: Me, 31 yrs old and didn’t have to get knocked up to land a husband!
haha. I love her to death, but sometimes I just want to smack her!
Emma, I think you’re doing good. When your SIL asks, you shouldn’t push her away or keep things from her. It’s just how she handles the situation and I’m sure she’ll love to babysit, when the time comes. I watched everyone get pregnant for 10 yrs, before I had my first (chemical) pregnancy. I hope your SIL can look into in-vitro… or maybe one day you can be her surrogate (if you’re up for that).
I also have a problem and came here looking for advice, you can delete this comment if you wish I’m not trying to be offensive if I come across that way. I’m 18 years old and engaged. My fiance and I own a house and I plan to be a stay at home mom, he’s an accountant and he’s 25. We’ve been together for 3 years and started trying for a baby about 6 months ago, I’m currently 5 months pregnant. We had our first baby when I was 15 by accident. His aunt is 41 years old and has been TTC for 20 years
. She came down for Easter back in April where I announced I was pregnant with our second baby and planning to get married in October. She busted out crying right there at the table. I didn’t realize this would affect her that way until then. I feel so awful. Ever since then she hasn’t tried calling my fiance or anything. I want to apologize but I have no idea what to say. What should I say?
Isabella- Write her a letter. Tell her that you’re so sorry for what she’s been through. Tell her that you’re so sorry that your news brought her any kind of pain. Tell her that you know there is nothing you can do to help her but that you do care. That’s all you can do. It’s not your fault that you can conceive and there’s nothing for you to feel guilty about. But you can express your concern for her feelings, and it’s great that you are sensitive to that.
Congratulations on your new addition! It seems like you know how blessed you are. Kiss your babies, hug your fiancé and thank your lucky stars.
Negative: I’m the only sibling without children
Positive: I can go where I want, when I want, do what I want, and never be late (unless I want to) because I don’t have to get a sitter or pay extra for the kid or pack up a bunch of kid stuff.
Yeah I’m totally lying even to myself. I’d love to have those “problems”.
@Kat- story of my life:)))
Wow, defines me to a T! Especially in my last post “Shark Week” check it out.
theinfertilesisters.blogspot.com
Negative: TWO friends had babies TODAY
Positive: I wont have a flabby tummy tomorrow and they WILL (muahahahaaaaa)
Negative: I saw several bumps while at the waterpark.
Positive: I got to flaunt a string bikini and they were stuck wearing maternity suits.
Negative: The first time I visit my SIL since Easter (she lives 4 hours away), she announces she is a week late and my brother brings her home a test and I am there to see the 2 pink lines and put one an award-winning performance on my happiness. This is her 6th, yeah, I really mean 6th. Her oldest is 5 months older than my only…they’re 8 years old.
Positive: Maybe I’ll get a BFP when she’s 5 months along again? Or I’ll get PG with twins? Other than those options I can’t really see a positive…help?