Infertility is the invisible ailment. No one talks about it and no one knows how to respond to it.
You typically get the “Just relax and it will happen” useless response, the “I feel so bad for you” pity response or the “I don’t know what to say and I’m uncomfortable” reaction. These types of people typically wait for you to bring up the subject although you know they are dying to say something. You can see it in their eyes. Should I ask her? Should I wait for her to say something? And when you do bring up the subject, you can see pity in their eyes, and they try to offer you fertility advice or tell you success stories of someone else they know. So and so tried this product and she got pregnant. I heard this fertility book was really good? They try to be helpful but you kind of wish they were better listeners than talkers.
And of course, you have the “Infertility gossiper” who tells you to ‘just relax and it will happen’ and you will definitely ‘be next.’ She treats your news like a good piece of gossip asking questions, giving useless advice and thinks that Clomid is a new type of chocolate bar. Well guess what? We relaxed and it didn’t happen!
But don’t feel sorry for us! We are obviously incredibly happy and stable women, who are clearly not depressed, upset or irrational about our situation at all. Clearly.