May 03
Fertility Tip Number 8,043 —> Try not to have an emotional breakdown about infertility in the workplace. You never know if you’re going to be on an episode of Undercover Boss.
“May-Lou, I’ve called you into my office because I am not really Gus, the pizza delivery guy. I am Constantine the third, the CEO of your workplace. During our time together, I noticed that you spent a lot of time crying in the bathroom and cursing at a box of tampons. As a company, we have decided to pay for all of your fertility treatments, and promote you to a different department for infertility insane workers.”
Today I sobbed about infertility at a garage sale. My SIL had her baby today (absolutely adorable). Yes, I’m happy for them, but I’m also completely heart broken. I was due around the same time and seeing my parents hold their new grandbaby was just too much. So I left. I went to a garage sale. There were baby clothes and I cried. Everywhere I go I’m reminded that I don’t have a baby. And you know how parents are always telling you things like, ” omg, just WAIT til you become a mom, you’ll understand what it’s like!” and things along that line?? Well today I got, “just WAIT til you go through labor!! It’s completely worth it though!!” Really?? Geez, I hadn’t thought about that these last 4 years of trying. I’m so glad you told me it was worth it , because I was just on the verge of changing my mind! And PLEASE, don’t tell me to ‘just wait’. I’ve been waiting longer than you’ve known your husband, girly.
My co-worker, who has been out on maternity leave, brought her new baby in to the office to show him off to everyone yesterday. That was awesome (insert sarcastic tone here). I got the standard “It’s your turn next” comment from too many people to count. I felt like saying “Really? My turn comes next? I’ve been waiting for my turn for over three years. I didn’t realize I had to wait until *Sue* had her baby before I could have one of my own. So glad she finally got around to having one. I guess I should be getting good news any day now!” Who knew?
I found out that I was miscarrying about ten minutes before I had to do this big presentation in front of a client and two co-workers. I was bawling in the parking lot on the phone with my husband, and then I had to clean up and go back in to do the presentation. That was also on our wedding anniversary. Years later, I found out that we were NOT chosen for an adoptive placement and then had a meeting with my boss’s boss in which he criticized everything about the way I work. I think the government should pass new legislation that says infertiles can take unlimited paid time off until they get their baby. They could call it NFMLA for “No Family” Medical Leave Act.
I’m open in my personal life as well as @ work with my infertility. Maybe it’s because I work in the medical field that talking about it isn’t a huge deal. It seems the women I work with fall into 2 groups: those who have been on continuos maternity leave (or so it seems) & those who keep our Lupron in the fridge next to our Greek yogurt.
Im actually sitting in the office right now listening to these crazy songs that are not doing anything for me but pulling me down! But reading your comments makes me laugh and helps me feel that I am not so alone afterall, All my sisters (three of them) have babies (3,2,1). My eldest sis has three and she calls me last week amd tells me she’s on folic acid coz they are trying for a fourth and its rather difficult, RATHER DIFFICULT!!!! and she already has three!!!