When two infertiles collide….
Your mom’s friend’s daughter is going through infertility treatments and although you barely know this girl, you know about her uterus in great detail. Thanks to your own mother, you know that Mindy went through IVF (it didn’t work), you know all about her vaginal surgeries and you’re aware that her husband’s sperm is more hostile than World War three. Your mother emailed you her fertility clinic’s phone number (“Bessie said that her daughter, Mindy, has a great fertility doctor. Here’s the number”), and your mother updated you about Mindy’s latest IVF treatment (“It didn’t work for her but she did try acupuncture. Do you want the acupuncturist’s phone number?”).
And then one day, you run into Mindy at a coffee shop.
No doubt, that Mindy knows all about your reproductive failures as well and the two of you make awkward small chat. You know she’s an infertile and she knows that you’re one too but no one says a word. You: “How is work going?” (Translation: Are you doing IVF again?). Her: “Things are going fine. How are you and your husband? “(Translation: My latest transvaginal wand appointment indicated my follicles are growing. Are you and your husband fighting about infertility too?). You make small chat for the next 60 seconds, wonder if she’s having a decaf or regular coffee, check to see if she has a baby bump, and then head out the door.
Thank goodness she isn’t pregnant either.
Hilarious- I love it!!
yes hilarious, espcially about the infertility fighting and the coffee part, lol
LOLLLLL! My mom was always blabbering on about our “condition”. I love her, but really, she just doesn’t know how to keep things to herself! Pissed me off at the time, now I just find it amusing (until we go through treatments again. Perhaps I would be wise to keep it a secret from her).
lol, so true.
Excellent stuff. I think I’ve talked to Mindy before.
Thanks for the great post, I can totally relate to this one. My mother in law seems to have many friends with infertile children! I’m glad I don’t mind sharing my story because I am sure it has been told to ALL of them. She also gives my email and number to them, like they will really pick up the phone and say “hey, heard you were infertile as well”. We do finally have our miracle little boy, if you would like to hear our story please visit http://www.ivfsuccessstories.info
HAAA! I have never been in this exact situation but it captures the thought process BEAUTIFULLY.
Among the many things I love about this blog is that it just gets out there and admits how we IFers think. So many (even on infertility blogs) try to pretend that they never think thoughts like “Thank God she’s not pregnant either” or that it would make them a bad person if they did – when it would just make them an infertile person! Welcome to our reality. So beautifully put.
Lol – that is so true
Wow. Love it. I’ve had that EXACT conversation. Isn’t this stinkhole of IF great? Thanks for keeping the humor around for us!
this is brilliant. and hilarious. i’m new here, at the end of a 2 week wait, which means of course that i’m not going to sleep for the next couple nights~ so in my delirium i started a fertility blog myself, and now i have been browsing around looking for other “alternative” blogs i could relate to.
this one rules
thank you for writing and sharing and inspiring~
http://fertilityfreak.wordpress.com/
My mother in law seems to have many friends with infertile children! I’m glad I don’t mind sharing my story because I am sure it has been told to ALL of them. She also gives my email and number to them, like they will really pick up the phone and say “hey, heard you were infertile as well”. We do finally have our miracle little boy
It’s my mother-in-law who keeps on telling everyone about it. Every time I see her, she tells me of a different treatment I should try – “someone just happen to mention this infertility treatment it out of the blue! I didn’t say anything.” I keep holding back the tears as she brings it up over a family dinner. I’m thinking that next time I might just burst into tears so she knows how much this upsets me.