#726 Those Damn Inspiring Infertility Quotes
Sometimes you just need to search for those inspirational quotes that make your bad infertility days seem a little bit better. Maybe you even googled “Infertility inspirational quotes” for sources of much needed hope, strength, and perseverance. And you probably ended up with some hopey-dopey, butterfly quotes. Here are some better infertility quotes that ring much more true.
“If a tree falls in the forest, can anyone hear it? If an infertile bangs her head against the wall in a bathroom at a baby shower, can anyone hear her?”
“Only caffeine and chocolate can rejuvenate the infertile soul.”
“Don’t cry over spilt milk (unless you’re crying because you don’t have breast milk, then it’s okay to cry).”
“Millions of couples suffer from infertility, so why the f$ck is everyone pregnant but me?”
“Screw you, infertility!”
Or you can just find hope in some of these quotes…
“It’s going to be okay in the end. If it’s not okay. It’s not the end.”
“Life isn’t about trying to weather the storm. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”
“If you can’t find hope. Look in a new direction.”
“What isn’t today might be tomorrow.”
”Hope is a renewable option: If you run out of it at the end of the day, you get to start over in the morning.”
“Nature has got it all wrong: When you are younger, it should be harder to get pregnant, and as you get older it should be easier. When you are so ready, you can’t do it to save your life. And when you are 21, you are so not ready, but you are ripe as could be. The eggs should become more developed the older you get, not die slowly from the day you’re born. That’s one thing God got wrong.” – Halle Berry
OK first off…I love Halle Berry’s quote! Spoken like a true infertile!
Second favourite quote is the first one “If an infertile bangs her head against the wall in a bathroom at a baby shower, can anyone hear her?” – AWESOME
I was thinking about my own “IF” quote yesterday.
As seen modeled by a baby:
My parents spent 30,000$ on infertility treatments and all I got was this lousy onesie.
Wonderful quote from Halle Berry.
And I think from the top quotes, “Millions of couples suffer from infertility, so why the f$ck is everyone pregnant but me?” seems to be the most appropriate to me right now. I knew of 3 women definitely who intended to start TTC in the fall. Guess what? They’re all pregnant right now. What the frack indeed.
I think I just fell in love with Halle Berry.
Halle Berry rocks! On a more serious note, this Max Ehrmann quote has gotten me through some bad IF days:
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
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I so agree with Halle Berrys qoute…I think she knows just how it feels.:)
only caffeine and chocolate can rejuvenate the infertile’s soul – too true!
Don’t bang your head against the wall at a baby shower, just do what I do…. imagine the most vivid imagery of vaginal tearing. It made my tears vanish right away!
And if someone who is pregnant is ever being a total b*tch to you, just ask her if she’s worried about tearing during childbirth…
I am 21 and have been ttc for 19 months with 2 losses. Not every 21 year old can get pregnant at the drop of a hat!
I have to agree with Sarah. My husband and I have been Ttc for three and a half years. We have experienced the same disappointments and financial strains that woman of all ages are. People around us of all ages are becoming pregnant including teens still in high school which is especially hard. The only kind of support we get from family and friends is to just relax and quit worrying about it and we are so young. Meanwhile I am shoving pills down taking BBTs and ovulation strips but all coming back negative. Most people are sad or furiated when their time of the month comes along but I would give anything to see that blood on the toilet paper. We have been to doctors after doctors with the same resluts….A huge pile of debt and still no answers as to why we are going through this and no help from the doctors either because they feel we are too young to have to worry about this. Infertility is a BITCH!!! And not just women of a certain age experience it all of us here are and instead of pointing out a certain age group we need to console each other because like any kind of disaster….IF does not discriminate. I hope we all will be able to witness our dreams come true and we all have healthy babies one day but until then we need to be each others support not judgement because after all noone will ever understand us like the people that are on here.
Love the quote, “Millions of couples suffer from infertility, so why the f$ck is everyone pregnant but me?” This is me and my husband at the moment. As the holiday season approaches there are constant reminder that we are still childless. Last Christmas I thought I would for sure we would be pregnant. Now a year later and still not pregnant. I feel I will be banging my head against a wall during Thanksgiving with all the babies and pregnant people all around. Today we had another doctors appointment. Of course infertile people and fertile people are mixed together at the OBs office. The fertile people are oblivous, but myself as a an infertile individual is FULLY AWARE! It took all I had to keep my composure with babies crying and pregnant ladies complaining about their ’state’. ohhhhhhhh SCREW YOU, INFERTILITY!
I have to say that while it is hard for all women who face infertility, I must say that it is even more destroying when you are a younger woman like I am 25. My husband and I have been trying for 3 years, so I bet you can only imangine how that makes me feel as a women who is suppose to be a fertile murtle. I am not saying at any age the pain is worse but I can say that not only older women feel the heartache and dispair of infertility! Oh and oyu dont have to be older to be ready for a child!
i agree with “jujugall” im only 18 and on my 18th birthday i got told i was infertile. i feel for any female or male who are infertile. its the most heartbreaking news to hear ever!
I spend the whole day with my husband’s son and I thought I would have felt better since it’s as if he’s my son too.However as I looked at him and thought about my situation, it felt like a pile of bricks coming down on me…..As I thought of why? and what makes his mother so much more privileged then I am…Since, I would be such a much better mother than she would ever be…:( I hate looking or being around pregnant women baby showers included and yes Im only 24 and also infertile….and I hate it…..Lastly both my sister have two beautiful children I’m the only freak of nature……: ….(…..Hope better days come my way….
Hi Adriana,
Hugs to you. I just thought to write to you to say that you are not alone. As a stepmom myself, I know how it feels, where you love your stepson (in my case, stepdaughter) but at the same time it hurts you so much. I love my stepdaughter so much, but I feel the same pain that you feel. I even feel envious too of her mom, that she could have a baby with my DH. It hurts even whenever DH talks about the day she was born, how he comforted her mom during labor, etc (even though they can’t stand each other today), how he cooked for her when she was pregnant. I ask myself when the F it will be my turn.
TO make a very long story short, the only pregnancies I have had with DH have been 2 confirmed chemical pregnancies. I was diagnosed with hyperprolactinemia last year, and put on Cabergoline. I always thought I had PCOS, but my doctor recently told me that they might just be polycystic “appearing” ovaries. According to my doctor, that’s where the ovaries look like they have multiple cyst,s but in reality function normally. Which, by the way, has ANYONE ever been told this by their doctor? Is there really such a thing as polycystic “appearing” ovaries? I don’t get that. The only good thing that has happened with the cabergoline is that it has given me regular cycles, cramps and PMS symptoms.
About my babies with DH, one was in April 2010 (one year next month) and October 2010. I told him about the April loss, but not the October one, because I simply knew he wouldn’t understand. He didn’t understand the April loss; a chemical pregnancy was just like a heavy period or spilled milk to him. Meanwhile, not a day goes by that i don’t think on my babies; I even bought birthstone pins for them. THey were REAL to me; they were my babies, and they are every bit as real to me as losing a child. I’m dreading next month. Jesus Christ, how I miss them.
I know I’ve heard the party line (from the “well meant”) about how i should be thankful that i could conceive at all, with my irregular periods and effin polycystic ovaries or “appearing” ovaries or whatever mumbo jumbo is up with my ovaries. And I am thankful for my babies, every day of my life. I don’t care what anyone says–these were my children; I became a mom to them the moment i saw that blessing of a faint pink line. I lost them forever when I bled. I can imagine them in my mind, and they are real, so real to me. But when I think of my stepdaughter’s mom, I still feel envious, and even desperate. I want to know the same love she once knew, of having a child with my husband. But above all, i want my babies alive. I want to have gotten fat and cranky, swollen ankles, heartburn, all the symptoms so many take for granted. I want to know labor. I would want anything, just to have them. Jesus, my APril baby would have been 3 months now; I would have been carrying my other at 5 or 6 months now.
Well, thanks so much ladies for hearing me vent. Sometimes I get so sad and so angry and bitter that it helps for me to let it all out. Also, writing’s always been my strength. When I can’t talk openly about my losses (so few people know) I turn to my diaries, my poems, and message boards. I never dreamed how much healing it has, to write and let it all out. Thanks so much for listening. My hugs, prayers and love to you guys always. And i’m here to listen if you ever need to talk.
Quick PS,
Hi Jujugal, I just read your post. I too was told throughout high school and college that I was going to have to “work” to have children. For me, the news about being infertile sucked, long before I married DH. Prior to starting cabergoline (and birth control pills, before that) I’ve always had a history of irregular periods, ever since my 2nd menstrual cycle at the age of 11. Add to that a history of hair growth too. My doctors in childhood and adolescence thought that I had PCOS. I always thought that I had PCOS until my most recent doctor found that my prolactin levels were elevated and that maybe I just had polycystic “appearing” ovaries. She put me on cabergoline, which regulated my cycles. BUt long before I met my husband, IF damn sucked! I often felt like a freak of nature in my family (it was probably all in my head, probably all teen angst, but still). Maybe it was all in my head, I don’t know. But I really really love how, when I was in college, my parents shared with my aunts and grandmother and other relatives that I was going for laser hair removal and going to get put ont he birth control pill to regulate my periods.
And don’t get me started on the hair salon! WHat is it about my hairdresser, when i was growing up, announcing how much hair i had??? She made me feel like the bearded effin lady! which don’t get me wrong, she’s a nice enough lady but those comments just make you feel like less of a woman. ANd even at the hair salon, mom wouldn’t hesitate to share that with her that i was going for laser hair removal. Also, my mom, her mother and her sisters have been very fertile, and she often told me that she conceived me the MONTH she went off birth control. She also said that someone just had to LOOK at HER mother (who had 8 kids) and she would get pregnant. Grrr…
Also, here is a funny postscript. I haven’t gone to my hairdresser in four years. Because, in the four years that have passed, I dated (and eventually married) another hairdresser
Hello all… I’m 25 years old and my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 6 years. I have good days and then I have bad days. “If a tree falls in the forest, can anyone hear it? If an infertile bangs her head against the wall in a bathroom at a baby shower, can anyone hear her?”….. This quote is 100% me. I have a friend that is having a baby I go to the doctor appointments with her and everything, her baby shower is next month and her baby is due in May, The day she told me she was pregnant I was so excited for her, but then it hit me that I would have to go out shopping for baby items. So being the person I am, I sucked it up and my husband and I went shopping, mind you I have avoided the baby aisle since I found out I couldn’t get pregnant, Looking at all the cute clothes, toys, etc. I literally broke down right there in the middle of the aisle… Then to top it off, my cousin (who hardly ever calls me) happens to call 2 weeks ago to tell me she is pregnant….
What really hurts is the fact that, like Deidre said, NOONE really understands what we are going through except us.
My friend and cousin and even family members have said to me on several different occasions, “You need to hurry up and get pregnant, or my friend will constantly talk about how the baby moves, whats new with her body, etc. I even had one person that over heard my Private conversation one day tell me, “You just need to get over it and quit pouting about it, go get a cat!!”
So I wish you all much luck and happy healthy babies in the future…. Take care and God Bless~~~
So crazy to see all of these comments from 20 something infertiles! I was just posting a comment on another page about how I used to think I was the only 25 year old who was dealing with infertility! We have been trying for 2.5 years now. It makes me feel like less of a freak to see all of you ladies!!! I too am the only IF amongst a family of extremely fertile guys and gals
My niece just recently stopped asking me when I was going to have a baby because she wants a cousin…I think my sister must have told her that “Aunt Kendra can’t have babies.” Guess what…it’s going to happen for me! I don’t know when or how, but I know that if God puts a desire in your heart to be a mother He will fill it! Check out my blog if feeling all alone! 
I have been trying for a year and a bit. I had my first loss exactly a year ago. And 3 more since. Now I’m on BC and my periods are way heavier and way painful ( I’m on percacet for a week every month now) and just found out little Sis is preggers. I am 26. It’s hard but I’m trying to let myself do it day by day. I can’t look to the future cause it depresses me to much. I’ve been a good person not perfect but good and I know it will come to me anyway it’s supposed to. Much love everyone and sticky baby dust
Having been trying since I was 22 and now being 35, for me its been just as hard all along the way. So, obviously now more than 10 years, but this is what I had to say:
“It’ll happen one day”
10 years trying, 10 years
My body just doesn’t work as it should
It might, granted, it might!
And pigs may fly – as true as that.
It could, I understand that
But it hasn’t
And as odds stand, its unlikely to happen by itself
But 10 years trying, 10 years
It just as easily might not happen one day
“You just need to relax”
10 years trying, 10 years
My body won’t release the eggs it should
My husband and I are in a loving relationship
We are very relaxed in each other’s company
We relax at home, we relax on holiday
And as odds stand, I spend more time relaxed than stressed
But 10 years trying, 10 years
If relaxing were the answer, where is the proof?
“Stop thinking about it”
10 years trying, 10 years
My body doesn’t think or work as it should
Have you tried not to think about family or whats for tea?
What about your biggest desire?
This is what I want, this is my biggest desire.
I keep myself busy to take my mind off and enjoy life as much as I can
And as odds stand, I think about it less than experts say men think about sex
But 10 years trying, 10 years
If I could stop thinking, I would, but I can’t
“This friend of mine…..”
10 years trying, 10 years
My body isn’t like your friends, its not doing as it should
It maybe a suprise to learn I too have friends like yours
Women have them every day, where bodies don’t betray
Many of whom have been trying for years
And as odds stand, don’t you think I already know this?
But 10 years trying, 10 years
I wish your friend was me, but she isn’t.
“You’d make a great mum”
10 years trying, 10 years
My heat and my mind yearn for this chance
An aching and a longing that won’t go away
Monthly tears and frustration
Christmas Day, Mother’s Day pass me by
Leaving a scar in their wake
And as the odds stand, I know I’d be a great mum
But 10 years trying, 10 years
Won’t someone please give me the chance
“Don’t give up”
10 years trying, 10 years
My hope won’t give up, its doing all it can
Officially too old – according to the rules
Officially too fat – according to the rules
The reason being the same reason I can’t
On one long eternal diet
And as odds stands, I’m a very positive person
But 10 years trying, 10 years
How much longer do I have to wait?
Reading all of these gives me so much comfort. When I was 18 I was finally told that I did not have any ovaries and I would never have a baby. I cried so hard. It was the hardest thing that I had to hear in the 18 years of my life. All of my friends tell me that I am so lucky because I don’t have a period but, this makes me feel like an outcast and a freak.Even still, the thought that I will never have the chance to have swollen ankles and all the other things that women get when they are pregnant depresses me. Like many of you, several of my friends are pregnant or have just had babies and it makes me very sad when I go to baby showers or buy them gifts. Now, 2 years later, I still cry every once in awhile at the thought of never having a child of my own.
All I can say to all of you out there is to be hopeful. God has a plan for you whether you know it right now or not. God Bless!
Like most of you all i take refuge in reading blogs like these…I’ve been ttc for about 2 1/2 years..that’s about 30 months that i learn Im not pregnant…its so hard and it helps so much to know that there is people like me that go through what i go through everyday..is hard when u have to go at it alone had a friend i thought she was my best friend we also had infertility in common…after 2 years she became pregnant with a beautiful baby girl..she pushed me aside.ignored me..told friends in common she needed to put distance between us because i was’jealous’ of her being pregnant and not me when i could never had been happier for her..that hurt so much its made me stronger…..i have a prolactinoma and pcos since i was 16..now being 21 this diagnosis haunt me like a bad nightmare.. It really does seem like the world is pregnant except me…everyone judges me because Im young but they don’t understand that i was born to be a mother…its hard…thank u for listening…good luck to us all:-)
I so agree with Marie qoute…I think she knows just how it feels
@Deidre
I agree with you 100%. It does not matter your age. Young or older, if you are IF it hurt’s like hell. I come from a family of 12. 12 kid’s! My oldest sister has 3 little girls…But me I can’t have children of my own. All the people I was once friends with have children. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but I do know it’s not fair. I don’t know what I did so wrong to have to go through this, just like many other women. What did we do? It seems like now day’s that the people that truly want children and would be great parents simply can’t have that chance. But the people who are undeserving can have children at the drop of a hat. I love God and i’m a christian…But that is something I don’t understand. I have been through alot in my 25 years of life. But there are no breaks I guess. Because the number one thing I want so badly, I can’t have.
My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 years now. We have been together for 7 years. It just sucks when everywhere you look there is baby stuff! You go grocery shopping and there are strollers and cars seats everywhere! I am literally the only grandchild who has never been pregnant, and the only one who had been happily married for any period of time. I just feel cheated because I know my husband would make the best dad, and I would be a great mom! I am only 25 and I know there is still time but u just feel like ts never going to happen. My husband has low sperm motility, and the doctor told us the odds were very slim, unless we could afford invitro….which how many 25 year olds can drop ten grand on that for me cycle!?! I’m so frustrated and depressed , but I’m glad to see I’m not alone in this,
Laura, I understand what you mean. I myself, I don’t know what to do anymore. Like you said, there is still time, and for now i’m trying to leave it all in God’s hand’s. But I still think about the what if’s. What if I never get pregnant? What if I wait to long? What if something is really wrong with me and I can’t afford to get anything done about it? Everyone say’s i’m driving myself crazy because I focuse on it to much. But everyone want’s a family, and I just know I can be a good Mother. A way better mother then most girl’s I know. Because the girl’s I know just want to go out and have fun while there baby is at home or God know’s where. But nothing is happening for me. I know it is hard to look at baby stuff. One time I thought I was Pregnant, and I went to look at baby stuff just day dreaming about what I would get…Only to be sadly disapointed after taking a test which obivoulsly came out Negative. It is very depressing…I feel like i’m not good enough for anything…
I literally broke down in tears the moment I started reading these posts. I’m 22, my husband is 25, and we have been trying for 3 years….
It’s so depressing to go thru this every month.
I thought I was a freak for feeling the things I feel. I use to think I was a really bad person for hating baby stuff, pregnant women, babies, toddlers, conversations between pregos,…etc.
My aunt is pregnant, and I love her very much, but I felt jealous of her condition, so I came clean and told her how I felt,….(I was lucky she understood)
my sister in law is pregnant too, (with her 2nd child and she’s younger than I am)…
I feel defective, empty, angry, sad, lonely,….
My husband tries to cheer me up, he says its ok, we’re still young…and we are…
But this desire won’t go away. I cry every month….God knows I want this so badly.As many of you have experienced as well…all my friends from High School and ex-coworkers have kids already and I hate running into them, because the same question comes up “so, when are you guys gonna have a baby?” Of course we always avoid it by saying “we are not ready yet” “maybe next year, we’ll see” “nah, we still want to have fun”….etc…
Truth is, I have never desired something so badly as I wish, hope and pray to get pregnant.
I hear pregnant girls complaint about the symptoms and I feel like slapping them for not appreciate the blessing they are growing inside their bellies.
I think I would live and enjoy every bit of my pregnancy (if I ever conceived)…I would even be happy to get morning sickness and achy feet and I would love my belly with all my heart….
But that’s a dream that seems to be far from becoming a reality.
I hope and pray each and every girl (including myself) here has or will be able to live the joy of being a mother of healthy little angels.
Baby dust to all of you and don’t loose faith. It’s hard to keep trying, specially facing the same rollercoaster of emotions every month….but it will be worth it some day….
Thank you for letting me vent. I think I would go crazy if I kept all this to myself.
Noone understands us the way we do.
Love,
Alicia.
Alice, i feel 100% the way that you do! I feel terrible when I see someone pregnant, I automatically hate them. I don’t know them, but I am so jealous I just hate it. It’s the worst feeling in the world and every month it just gets more and more depressing. I am two weeks late on my period soo today I took a test, of course it said no. I just want to be in a good place with the whole situation, so when I hear someone say they are pregnant I don’t feel like banging my head into the wall. I would gladly have morning sickness every day of my pregnancy, and the heart burn, and everything that goes along with it, and i would cherish every second of it!I want to start a family so bad, I’ve never wanted anything more! My husband and myself have been together 8 years and wanted to wait until we were financially stable, so we took every precaution to avoid getting pregnant, and now we are In a good spot and while not rich in any way, we are more financially stable than before. But we in no way have enough money to do any form of iui or ivf or anything! Reading these posts definantly help, it’s good to know others understand your situation and I hope each and every one of us finally get to experience being pregnant and the happiness that goes with it!
You know ever since I was 16 I’ve been going to the OBGYN to find out why I wasn’t having periods.they really didn’t know and put me on the pill as a solution. Now I’m 24 and still don’t know what’s wrong. My husband and I have been TTC for 2 1/2 years with no luck. We just did our third cycle of clomid and now we are moving on to IUI. A good friend of mine just had her first baby and I couldn’t help but feel that she was throwing it in my face. I found out she actually was through another friend. It sucks seeing everyone else whe isn’t ready for kids or who didn’t want children have them. My heart hurts you guys and tonight has been one of those nights where I have just stayed awake and cried all night. Doctors tell you to do your fertility research but it just makes it hurt more. I’m glad hat you ladies all know how it feels and are willing to share that with each other. Blessings!
My husband wants to have another wife because I’m infertile, even after going through all the surgerys and hormonal stress to try and get pregnant, I can’t believe he would do that to me.. I feel so broken. I only have God to depend on…
My heart goes out to all of you! I feel the very same way…It’s so hard going through. Specially when ya kinda feel alone…I don’t have any friend anymore because, yea I got jealous and angry due to the fact they have kid’s and I don’t. I just feel what do they have that I don’t? I guess alot… I pray God blesses us all some day soon, or takes this pain away so that we can have more happiness in life. I’m sorry for everything you guy’s are going through…As you know your not alone, i’m here with ya. As for someone wanting another due to your IF, that is so wrong. Althoug it’s hard, but now you know what kind of person he is. I believe God has someone in mind that will be understanding and never walk away. It’s not your fault this has happened! You have been through alot from what you said, and no one deserves to treated that way. Please keep hope and faith that God will make away for us all. You are all in my prayer’s! God Bless and Baby dust to you all!
Well, Halle Berry you are kinda wrong… I am 21 and I am infertile anyway… Me and my husband are TTC for one and a half year now..
I’m 27 and been ttcing for 2 tress, I have premature ovarian failure, no amount of relaxing is going to get me pregnant. My best friend got pregnant within 2 months of coming off the pill and didn’t understand why I found it hard to be sympathetic when she complained about morning sickness or how she was going to cope, bearing in mind I was in the middle of my first attempt at ivf. It failed, she gave birth 2 days ago and I’m heart broken. People say she’s my friend and I should make up with her, they don’t understand the pain. But I’ve felt worse, and I got through it, I can do it again, and again and again if I have to. We r all amazing women xxx
Infertility can be treated with the modern techniques. There is a new hope and science has always give us some new techniques through which our life become simpler. Becoming parents is dream and to fulfill the dream we have to keep motivated. This kind of quotes helps people, make them to understand that there is hope and you need to be very optimistic in the life.
PLEASE…NEVER give up hope!
I was diagnosed infertile due to damaged/scarred fallopian tubes. One was a hydrosalpinx, and I was told even if we could afford IVF, I would have to have that tube removed. Before getting married, I told my husband, but he was ok with it, as he had a 5 year old from a first marriage. I went through years of crying, jealousy, resentment of friends and family who had lots of babies. Couldn’t go to a baby shower, or child’s birthday party without being sad.
After 8 years, my husband left me because he “wanted other children”. I was devastated. I am now 41, and was told, much to be disbelief, that I was SIX MONTHS pregnant a few weeks ago!!! I couldn’t believe it. I thought I was in menopause, because pregnancy stopped ever crossing my mind years ago.
Keep faith, and believe that ANYTHING is possible! God Bless you all!