You can hear the stay-at-home mom chatter now. “Oh my goodness, Clarissa. Did you hear that so-and-so drank ALCOHOL during her two week wait?”
You have been through 4,500 two week waits, and have never even taken a sip of alcohol during the wait…. Until now. Sure you’ve broken your own fertility rules and drank coffee, ate candy for dinner and missed a Folic Acid pill or two or three but you always stay away from alcohol, just in case. Then last month, you failed a fertility treatment, and had been trying “naturally” since, which meant you were probably not going to get pregnant on your own. Yes. You had sex every other day AND during ovulation, and did the recommended 30 minute butt elevation following each try. You did all the right things yet you “just knew” there was no way you could get pregnant on your own.
So you drank.
Bottoms up to those two tiny, little sips of your husband’s wine! And maybe a glass of champagne at your cousins wedding and finally, a shot with your girlfriends so Ms. I-Got-Pregnant-On-My-First-Try would stop curiously staring at your belly. And perhaps there was that one time only drinking contest that you just had to try out. And then CRAP, your period is late. Figures the ONE TIME you drink any alcohol, you could be pregnant and now your baby is swimming around your womb with a 9 month hangover. The stay-at-home mom chatter continues…“I heard so-and-so drank so much during her two week wait that her baby came out of the womb with a bottle of vodka in it’s hand.” Worst mom ever.
Wait! Looks like Aunt Flow is here. She got drunk too and has now arrived to the party later than scheduled. Time to drink up, ladies! It’s infertility happy hour.
Drink till it’s pink, baby. It’s science. Look it up. You don’t even share a blood supply until 6 weeks. So stopping at 4 weeks is just plain generous, if you ask me.
I am not a drinker too much, but I have never lived by this rule. If I want a beer, I drink a beer. I like Busted Kate’s response. Rock.
I agree as well! I’m not much of a drinker these days, but I have tried to not drink too… Better than my friend who got pregnant after two months and still drinks occasionally @ 5 months pregnant. Oh, she smokes too. Nice right?
But I like this reason! I can always count on this blog to give me a good laugh!
Naomi- your blogs have given me reason to smile, when there is no other reason to smile! Thank you for keeping all of us going!
I’m here to make you laugh ladies! Infertility rocks!
I almost always drink during the two week wait, but only because I ALWAYS get bad cramps & horrible backache like a week to 10 days before AF shows. That is how I know she is coming. So when the cramps come I know she isn’t far behind and then I have a drink in honor of her pending arrival. You know sort of how you drink before the in-laws come over…
seriously, it worked for a friend of mine. she NEVER drinks, but she had a glass of wine at a wedding during her 2ww and voila, BFP. come to think of it, I had a few sips of wine at a wedding shortly before my BFP a couple years ago (but it ended in miscarriage, so I guess that doesn’t count).
Since I am a light drinker I don’t feel guilty about drinking during the 2ww. Glad to see that others do the same. I just basically try to live my life the way I was living it before.
In the beginning, I wouldn’t take cough medicine, an aspirin, a coffee, or a sip of alcohol…I guess after five years I feel like I can take care of myself and not be so worried about the baby that probably isn’t started in there yet. Thanks for this site…you make me smile and remind me I am not alone.
After three years of trying to get or stay pregnant, I’ve learned that rules don’t always apply. I mean, how else can I make through infertility without getting my drink on?
I soooooo agree with Kate on this one. I generally don’t drink every night during the 2ww but one night on the weekend is defeinitely not gonna hurt
I’ll drink to that!!! Cheers ladies!
Sooooo true! I have to admit, I love my cocktails, and was REALLY good during a medicated cycle, but I’m not super careful other times. I mean, really – it hasn’t worked before, why would it work this time???
After 10 cycles at the clinic, my third IVF cycle it was my birthday and anniversary during the 2ww.
I was out to dinner and decided f&^(*&^ it, it never works anyways…….
I think I had 2-3 drinks (first time I had every drank during the 2ww) and shockingly I got a bfp for the first time. Maybe there’s something to it!
I argue with myself and even worry about drinking NA because it has a little hint of alcohol in it. How CRAZY is that? I am waiting for my blood test on Monday after my first IVF cycle. If its bad news I will being tying a BIG one on! I will steal your expression ” It’s infertility happy hour” well sad hour : (
Since I am a light drinker I don’t feel guilty about drinking during the 2ww. Glad to see that others do the same. I just basically try to live my life the way I was living it before.